The World Needs People Who Care
On reframing the things I think I need to change about myself
Many of the teachings I’ve consumed on my eternal path of self-discovery have sent the message that I should strive to embody this “I don’t give a fuck” attitude:
As a projector in human design, I’m taught that I have nothing to prove.
Maryam Hasnaa, whom I have learned so much about energetic sovereignty from, teaches about how the more you step into your unique power & gifts, the more people will misunderstand you—and how it’s crucial we are okay with this. Maryam also has such a badass DGAF vibe that I so respect and know I would benefit a lot from as a recovering empath & people-pleaser.
Scorpio Season seems like the perfect time to strengthen my DGAF skills as well. And, the other day I went on TikTok and saw all these posts with people being like, “POV: you finally stopped people pleasing” and then they transform into these hot, powerful people who seemingly have everything together. I couldn’t help but think, “I want that for me!”, especially as I am developing the courage to share my story.
But alas…yesterday, I came to the sudden epiphany that…that’s just not me. I don’t not give a fuck…I have never been able to not give a fuck…I give MANY fucks, and deeply caring is my superpower.
Similarly, I’ve come to the same realization about my perfectionism. For a long time I thought I needed to work on not being a perfectionist, but am now realizing that this is also a superpower. My reframe here is: I’m a perfectionist, and I need to work on not being a perfectionist → I pursue excellence, and that is a gift.
I don’t need to change who I am. I need to become skilled at knowing who I am, and how to work with my innate characteristics to become the fullest, most empowered version of myself. I also need to know the limitations & shadow sides of my traits. As long as I don’t let my perfectionism and empathy stop me from sharing my story, pursuing my art, or shining BRIGHT, these are the very traits that will make me successful in becoming the person I want to be.
In a world that’s numb, desensitized, and on auto-pilot, we need people who feel deeply. We need people who fiercely care. We need people who transform the pain, struggle, and hurt into art, wisdom, healing, inspiration—and ultimately, new worlds. The world needs me, exactly as I am. The world needs you, exactly as you are.