the power of perspective
perspective shifts I'm currently working through + reflection questions for you 🫶
I recently shared that my entrepreneurship visa application for Denmark was rejected. I was really blue upon receiving the news—securing this visa would have meant I could move to Copenhagen to live with my partner. We’ve been in an inter-continental relationship for a little over a year now, and with her 14-hour work days and our 8-hour time difference, it’s tough when we’re physically apart.
The visa rejection has brought an onslaught of logistical questions regarding my life-trajectory, and what the next few years will look like: Where is my home? Is it worth it to find a place back in the States, knowing I’ll be traveling back & forth for a while? Will I get tired living a nomadic life for the next few years? When will I be able to have kids?
Top off the existential questions with a platter of flights to book, travel things to research, RSVPs to respond to…my brain has been non-stop swirling, weighing options and budgets and schedules, and plotting potential paths forward.
This morning I returned to my practice. Cleansed our space with incense. Deep breaths on the yoga mat. Enjoyed a few cups of tea in silence. Morning pages with the dazzling, metallic purple pen (!) my boo just got me.
I wrote about these perspective shifts:
I don’t have a home → I am a citizen of the world, and I get to live a life of travel, adventure, exploration, and freedom.
Long-distance relationship is going to be really hard → We’re also going to have the time of our lives, loving & learning & living across the globe.
It’s going to be years before we can “settle down” and have a family → We are already building our family—its foundation, traditions & rituals, and ways of being. Before babies, we get to have years of what I am now dubbing, being “responsibly reckless”—indulging in art and food and adventure, enjoying each other, and gathering the experience we need to turn our visions into reality.
I find it interesting that I feel resistance to the brilliant life that’s coming to fruition now. This life that’s unfolding is exactly why I worked so hard to become my own boss & design a flexible lifestyle. I’ve always wanted a partner who’s passionate, driven, with a magnificent life of their own; and a partnership full of novelty, romance, and adventure. Here it all is, sitting before me.
Perhaps grand manifestations just take a bit of getting used to.
reflection questions for you ✨
What situations in your life could benefit from a shift in perspective?
What stories are you telling yourself about this situation?
What is the light side of this situation? (The dark & the light always come hand-in-hand.)
How do you feel when you spend more energy on the light of it all?
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